Handle Your Scandel

25 Aug 2010 1 Comment

by siddiquah in Love, Sex, and Magic, My Thoughts...etc

Cheating. A simple word with BIG meaning. This word evokes many feelings: hurt, anger, excitement, sadness, confusion, anxiousness, regret.

When you’re the cheater, you may have thoughts that “no one will ever find out” or “I don’t love him/ her” in order to validate your reasoning for either starting up this charade or continuing it. When you’re the cheat-tee, you have thoughts of “why wasn’t I enough?” or “why doesn’t he/ she love me anymore?”. Either way, it’s an unfortunate situation. Someone ALWAYS ends up getting hurt. People have this misconception that if they don’t get caught, no one gets hurt. Wrong-o. Even if you never get caught in the act, your actions will reflect your infidelity. You may think your habits are consistent or that you are not exhibiting feelings of emotional withdrawl from your partner, but the other person always knows. Sometimes, it’s not a feeling you can explain…you just *know*. It’s usually the ones that think they’re SO smart that end up making the careless mistakes. Here are a few:

• Switching Up Your Routine – now all of a sudden you working late? Unavailable all the time? No one is THAT busy. Do better.
• “Emotional Check-Out”- you forget to maintain a reasonable interest in your old partner because you’re totally consumed by the excitement of your NEW partner.
• Bad Alibi- your stories are conflicting OR you fail to have any story at all. If you’re going to lie, try your best NOT to insult the intelligence of your lover.
• Showing Off In Bed- where the hell you get these new moves from? You wasn’t doing that last month….
• Spending More Time On Appearance- since when do you take longer than ME to get dressed?? Fishy dude…fishy.

The best course of action would be to simply refrain from cheating at all costs. It’s not worth all the emotional hoo-ha. If you’re unhappy in a relationship, just end it, then be free to go your merry way. Don’t bring unnecessary drama into a situation. Relationships are dramatic enough.

Happy Loving <3